"Born this way" or not?

November 8, 2011 § 19 Comments

Wow, such a frenzy by, if you will pardon the term, religious nut jobs to scream at science and say no, being gay is a choice.  And that gets up another flood of people saying no.  To me it just crowds the issue.  No doubt as it is intended.  Let’s get it off the equality subject and argue as to if homosexuality is a choice or not.  Well, why the fuck does it matter?  Hell, we are never going to be able to prove for 100% that it is not, and, well what is wrong with it being a choice?  Aren’t we supposed to be free as consenting adults to make choices about who we love?

Sancitity of marriage…. what’s the divorce rate at right now?  54.8% in U.S.  37% in Canada.  Whoa!  Wait you mean legalizing gay marriage hasn’t violated the sanctity of all the straights in Canada, how odd.  By the way Canada’s divorce rate has dropped from 37.9% in 2004, before legalized same sex marriage.  Obviously gay couples getting married has not sent frenzied heterosexual couples into hysterics.  See, since they made it legal, it really has not become a big deal.  When two people get married it is HUGE deal to them, a pretty big deal to their family, a small deal to other guests.  BUT when two people cannot get married just because they happen to be of the same sex…. well then it is a pretty big deal to a whole lot of people on both sides of the issue.

It just seems like such a waste of energy.  DOMA is going to lose.  Sooner or later same sex marriage will be legalized.  But while they can keep people fighting about it at least politicians don’t need to focus on healthcare, tax breaks for their industry buddies, light rate of unemployment, the education system….

That’s right… Just keep your eyes on those queers destroying families.  After all, every fairytale needs the bad guys to make the “heroes” look good.

I’m sure you have seen them….

September 28, 2011 § 7 Comments

A new FCKH8 video I just wanted to share.

Way to fight the stereotypes

August 25, 2011 § 6 Comments

I am always amused when I get called on not “fighting the stereotypes”.  I’m gay, and I flame sometimes.  And sometimes I fit the stereotype, and sometimes I don’t.  It’s funny how I can get reamed out for not being “sensitive” enough (being gay I guess I should be), then get told off for being a shoe aficionado.  Both  amuse me.  I am not trying to live up to or put away any stereotypes.  I am who I am.  I am gay, not the way he is, he is, or he is, but the way I am.  To me being so careful of avoiding stereotypes… fuck I may as well have stayed in the closet.  I am not every queer.  I am no more going to avoid gay stereotypes than I avoid eating fried chicken.  To me, if I am living up to your stereotypes of gay men, maybe it is time to look at why you stereotype those things as gay.  It says far more about you than it does me.
And as for the gay guys out there who don’t like how I portray gay, I tell you what, I won’t tell you how to do it right, and you don’t tell me.  Fuck, boys, we get enough shit in the world, do we really have to be such dicks to each other?

*Puts soap box away*.

Queer, faggot, dyke, homo,

February 1, 2011 § 8 Comments

People get so hung up on the words rather than the feeling behind them. I am pretty meh with regards to words, more the feeling behind them. My best friend will refer to me on my facebook as a “raging homo”, yet would be the first person at my back if anyone used a slur directed at anyone. I think people get too caught up in the words rather than their actions behind them.
I have found the whispered “homosexual” much more offensive than someone outright calling me a fag. Whispered,even though they are using the P.C. word, implies that there is something wrong with being gay. Like people are afraid to acknowledge it, because it is soooo wrong.
I remember my mom one time talking about how at the playground the one day a woman asked which child hers was. “The one on the slide.” “Oh…. you mean the one who is…. um… darker complected…”
“Black,” my mom said. “It’s okay, he knows he’s black.” I remember how pissed she was, not because the woman realized my skin colour, but because she was embarrassed to say the word.
Anyway, theseblogs are dangerous spots for me to be, because I am going to become addicted, lol. ANyway, cameacross a big rant today about how gay people should not use these words because it is demeaning ourselves and each other.
I believe to ban something gives it power. To say “this is a terrible word” gives it far more power. Look at the imfamous “N” word. Ridiculous how much hate and fear and pain is poured into one word. Why? Because we gave it that power. We decided it was a bad and terrible and horrible word. We banned books, because even HISTORY had no use for the word. So now we want a whole other group of words with that much power? Really? Any thoughts?

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